Important Definitions

The following is an excerpt from Castiel's BDSM-5 V1

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BDSM: Bondage Dominance Sadism Masochism

Bondage: Restraining or tying up a partner

Sadism: Receiving pleasure from inflicting pain on a partner

Masochism: Receiving pleasure from receiving pain from a partner

Dominance: Holding authority over a partner both in and out of the bedroom

Submission: Giving authority to the dominant partner, willingly

Aftercare: Taking care of the needs of each partner after a scene

Breath Control: Controlling a partner’s ability to breathe

Chastity: The complete denial of sexual acts (sex and masturbation) often times with enhancing clothing like chastity cages/belts

Collaring: The ultimate commitment in BDSM, this shows complete ownership of the submissive to the dominant, it is a physical symbol of the commitment and trust two partners can show each other

Dom/Domme/Dominant: The partner who takes the lead, holding total authority over the submissive

Edging: Bringing a partner to the edge of an orgasm, but not letting them finish

Hard Limits: Things that are absolutely not okay to attempt

Pegging: A femme partner using a strap-on to penetrate the masc partner

Play Space: A safe space designated to practicing BDSM in a controlled and comfortable environment

RACK: Risk Aware Consensual Kink, creating a space to talk about kinks safely as well as opening up a discussion of how to practice kinks as safely as possible, knowing the risks of a kink (which can include mental trauma, physical trauma and potentially death) and being absolutely okay with them before jumping in

SSC: Safe Sane Consensual, creating a space to talk about kinks safely as well as opening up a discussion of how to practice kinks safely, staying safe, not doing any activities that can result in permanent harm, and always getting full consent

FRIES: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific, an acronym used to specify what exactly is consent, not coerced, can be revoked at any time, every detail has been okayed, there is no hesitation

Safeword: A word used when the scene needs to end, for any reason, immediately as the word is used

Subspace: A headspace experienced by the submissive partner that includes a rush of hormones and endorphins

Switch: A partner who switches between dominant and submissive

Scene: Being in your roles during sexual intimacy, this can include sex or sexual things i.e. spanking

Subdrop: The drop of hormones and endorphins after being in subspace, this can happen minutes or days after a scene. It’s usually marked by a low mood, low energy, crying, and others

Multi-day Scene: A scene spanning multiple days

Edgeplay: A term for scenes that challenge SSC, but if all partners agree to the risk, it becomes RACK

Service Sub: A submissive who is in service to their dom, who loves to serve their dom

Service Dom/Top: A dominant who is in service to their sub, who loves to serve their sub